When you’re both a system and other form of neurodivergent, there’s going to be new headmates everywhere.
I’m both part of a system and have other neurodivergences, i’m constantly stressed out, either for masking, tiredness, explaining things, remembering stuff, saying “what?” every two seconds because i get distracted, trying to pay attention to important things, getting hyperfixated and finding new spins (wich for me aren’t inherently bad, i love my interests), and other things. Of COURSE any minor stress is able to cause a new headmate.
We got a new headmate for questioning my sexual orientation even though it was a minor stress
We got a new headmate because i was tired of fronting and in need for a host even though it was a minor stress
We got a new headmate because i was feeling isolated and alone even though for some that’s considered a minor stress
We got a new headmate because i was concerned something would happen to a plushie even though it was a minor stress
We got a new headmate because i couldn’t stop thinking of a hyperfixattion even though it was a minor stress
It’s okay if you get headmates for apparent minor stress or “irrelevant” reasons.
We got reblogged by a certain troll account, so here’s a reminder that we systems will always be stronger than the trolls could ever hope to be.
The plural community has been around for decades, and no amount of infighting, psychological abuse, or fakeclaiming has torn us apart; we’re capable of surviving a few isolated idiots who think it’s funny to flex their lack of knowledge of the brain.
“You’re faking.” No, you’re not. “You’re deluding yourself.” Absolutely not. “Nobody believes you.” I believe you. We believe you. The plural community believes you.
In times like this, nothing is quite as important as standing up for ourselves. Take pride in who you are, if being plural brings you any pride at all. (If it doesn’t, or if you’re afraid to speak up, that’s completely fine, but please don’t use that as leverage to silence those of us who are more passionate about it.)
To every system that’s ever been fakeclaimed, harassed, or belittled for who they are: you are a million times stronger than the people trying to bring you down. They insult you because they don’t understand the complexity of the mind, nothing more.
As for our own system, we’re proud as hell of who we are. It’s taken a great deal of work to get to that point, but our days of groveling to the fakeclaimers are over.
Trolls, seethe all you’d like, but we’ll still be thriving, and we’ll be thriving together.
